The Bishop would like to meet with you

Years ago, as a convert to the Mormon church, one of the things that really turned me off was the practice of being called for a meeting with the Bishop. The way it worked went like this: the Ward Clerk (who set the appointments for the Bishop) would call you at home and tell you that the Bishop would like to meet with you. Then he would arrange a time and set the appointment. That’s it. What’s wrong with this scenario? Well, the member is given no information whatsoever as to what this meeting is about. None. We are talking about adults here who are called on the carpet so to speak with no knowledge of the reason. There can be various reasons for this such as the church has found out you’ve done something "wrong" and wants to talk to you about it and possibly send you to a Church Court as Jeffrey has written about. However, the usual reason is to extend a “calling” (i.e. a church job). So my question is why is that not mentioned? The clerk could (and should) say; “Bishop Shortpants would like to talk to you about possibly helping out in the church nursery. Could you come see him Thursday at 7:00?” This would be the appropriate way to conduct business with another adult human being. But instead, Mormons are treated like children being called into the Principal's office. Now why would anyone subject themselves to such treatment? Why indeed.


  1. And if you're a woman, your husband gets invited too. Not only that, but the Bishop speaks to him first, to get his permission for you to accept the calling. Huh?

    1. That's just so it's not a man and a woman alone in the room.

  2. As a young woman who grew up in a highly Mormon populated town in Arizona, I have been raised surrounded by the standards, practices, and expectations of Mormons and their families. Recently, I have become more and more interested in the religion and immersed myself in any information I could find. One thing that particularly piques my curiosity is the gender roles of women and men in the Mormon church, both unspoken and spoken. Could anyone explain the gender roles to me in more detail? Thanks


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