When I think back to my years spent in the Mormon church there were so many obvious incidences that would cause any normal, thinking person to pause and consider whether or not being in this religion was really a good idea, let alone thinking it’s a “true” church. One such instance was when I was involved with some of the other women at church with a job (aka “calling”) in the Young Women’s organization. While we were all sitting around one day working on a project I asked something I had always wondered about; why does this church fully support and encourage the young men to join and be involved in the Boy Scouts, but yet they don’t do the same for the young women and the Girl Scouts? The answer I was given went something like this; “Oh, that’s because the Girl Scouts teach the girls to grow up to b e strong, independent women and tell them they can have any career they want.” I sat stunned for a moment and then shot back with; “And the problem is….?” Wow. When I heard that it really struck a nerve. I mean, to even think that a group of people who supposedly stand for good would consider the overall nature of girls being taught to be strong women and that they can, if they choose, have a career as being a negative is beyond belief. And you know, the funny thing is I am a stay at home mom myself. Through I have worked a good deal of my life in prior years, I never really had a career and in fact wished I had been encouraged to. I was never a Girl Scout, but I wish I had been. If I had a daughter I would absolutely want her to fulfill whatever professional goal she felt compelled to do and if her choice was to be a stay at home mom that’s ok, too, but I would want her to know the choice was hers and no one was going to pigeon hole her into a role that she did not feel suited for. Although I did not grow up Mormon, I did join at a young age and I’m definitely not thrilled with where that has put me today in terms of some aspects of my life, and this is one of them. I married at a young age, put a husband through school so he could get his degree and earn good money and then had a child young and stayed home. I never had the opportunity to obtain any schooling which would enable me to have a career of some sort. Although today I am happy with my life overall including my current choice to be a stay at home mom as I now have a little one, I wish I had other options for the future. When I look back and see how being part of this organization has negatively affected my life in so many areas and continues to this day it definitely gets to me. There are various negative things, I think especially as a woman, I can attribute to having been involved in this religion. I am of course happy to be out now, but the fallout from the damage continues.
Please let me hear from you if you have stories you’d like to share along these lines.